As Team North America, we came together in Atlanta, GA in May/June 2018 for our quarterly training. Team & Beyond is super excited to share that video with you!
Team San Francisco – T2Q4 (T2Q3 when interviewed)
Interviewed on Oct 2, 2013 by Connie Chow from Team San Francisco – T1Q1
Written on Feb 9, 2014 by Connie Chow from Team San Francisco – T1Q2
My very first weekend on TEAM in San Francisco started out fairly frustrating when we were constantly restoring integrity about EVERYTHING; I was just fed up. I hated restoring integrity because I only heard make wrong of the individual, make wrong of others, and make wrong of TEAM. I was getting ancy in my seat, sighing, and getting annoyed (while withholding!). People (who I now know as Team 2’s) kept interrupting the Team Leader from sharing her agenda…..rrRRrrr…..I couldn’t sit through this much longer. Then, Kamela gets the attention of the room by saying “one conversation over here”. She explains that she understands this process may seem frustrating and time consuming and explained that the Team, Management, and Leadership Program is one program that doesn’t have a manual because it’s entrepreneurial. There is no structure in a sense so we get to create what we want in TEAM. And sometimes it’s grueling and necessary to go through the process of restoring integrity.
My jaw literally dropped; JUST LIKE THAT Kamela restored my listening and participation in the weekend. She was able to ‘get’ the listening of those of us who were withholding (like me!). I thought “how did she do that?!” If this is what I’m going to get out of TEAM, then I am in the RIGHT place!
Kamela has consistently articulated her generous listening of TEAM and it is with awe and respect that I write this article. I hope you find this interview inspiring for you and your Game In The World.
What is the possibility of your Game In The World?
My possibility is being limitless generosity. I ask myself this question all the time to keep myself on track; it’s like a personal compass. Am I being limitless generosity right now? If I’m not, then I catch myself and redirect my listening to be more intentional and more generous.
What is your Game In The World?
Team 2’s play a different game than Team 1’s. One of the components of our game is being of service to others. So I started looking at what it means to be of service to others. In Landmark, we have being of service distinguished as being of service for no reason other than to just do it, not doing it to get something out of it, not doing it to make someone else feel good, not doing it to repay a favor… just to be of service and for no other reason. This led me to discover that my game was to empower others to fulfill on their dreams. My game is called Dreams Fulfilled – to be of service to others and to empower them to take actions to fulfill on their dreams. And in empowering, there’s a component of acknowledgement that occurs in every conversation.
How did you select your people to coach and how’s the experience been for you?
Dreams Fulfilled is mostly family – my mom, my dad, and my sister. I made a difference in having their dreams fulfilled. It’s amazing to have my sister listen to me in a way that she can have her measures fulfilled on. They all respect me highly as a coach and that didn’t exist before. All three of them took the Landmark Forum as a result of their new listening of me. The Landmark Forum came into my family through my stand in Team 2. Love occurs at a whole new level now. There are less barriers to hide behind and more honest communication.
What structure did you have in place for your Game Leaders and what were their dreams?
I set up weekly calls to coach six Game Leaders spread over five different games. The structure of our calls involved discussing breakdowns and breakthroughs with regards to their weekly measurable promises and results. In the beginning, we set up what they want to accomplish in the next three months. We create a possibility, an outcome, and measureable results for each game. Team 2 games are set up like Team 1’s GITWs. Every week I touch base with my Game Leaders and discuss whether they won or lost their measures for that week. It’s really about service and what’s really important to my coachees. I empower them to fulfill on their promises. It’s about coaching people to take actions to fulfill on what’s most important to them in their life.
My first Game Leaders are a couple who are business partners. They met in a prestigious design school in Atlanta and they left their prestigious jobs to pursue their business in branding and packaging design work. They are creating a nest egg for their marriage and to have babies. They created a game on gaining clients in the adult beverage and beauty industries. They generated clients, built a new website, and created financial milestones that allowed them to be in Turkey for a long vacation.
My next Game Leader is my father. He created a project around fundraising for a spiritual university where he’s a faculty member. Historically he hates fundraising. It was put on him because he’s a go-getter and an effective worker. So he agreed to take it on. He assessed how much the university needed, which was about $170K. He was overwhelmed by the amount needed. However, since he’s done the Forum, he said let’s be unreasonable and aimed for $250K instead. I saw what was ahead for me; I needed to be able to coach him around something that didn’t sound fun and sounded rather daunting. Using the technology of creating a possibility and creating outcomes, I was able to coach him to go for it! He embraced Landmark technology and kicked ass raising a total of $333K. He raised above and beyond his unreasonable goal! Each week I coached him, there were a lot of breakthroughs, including securing one generous donor who doubled other donations.
This quarter he’s creating a non-profit healing clinic linked to the spiritual university where he works. My dad is a medical doctor and practices alternative medicine. He wants to bring prophetic healing to everyone in the world. The university already supports a student practicum healing clinic that has patients from around the world. They perform Skype healings with people in Africa. It’s happening in a global scale. His dream is to create this healing that spreads across the world to heal people from cancer and heart disease. Touching lives at a global level. [Fast forward to February 2014: Kamela’s dad is focusing on the opening of his new healing clinic, the Shafiyy Institute, which will see its first patient this month!]
My sister is my next Game Leader. She created a game to find ‘the one’ for marriage and kids. She’s 32 years young and through the course of this game, a family friend recommended a London lad for her. My sister started dating him via Skype and it’s been 6 months of online dating. Two weeks ago she flew to London and met him for the first time. She met his mom, dad, sister and his community. They both agreed to continue going forward with the relationship. And now he has a trip booked to visit California to meet us, her family. She definitely has her eyes on this man. [Fast forward to February 2014: Kamela’s sister got engaged a couple months ago and just left for England to move in with her fiancé. They are getting married next month in England!]
My next Game Leader is a friend from college who now lives in Chicago. She works at a Catholic high school as the Extracurricular Activities Director in charge of all the clubs at the school. She’s guiding each student leader to create their Dreams Fulfilled inside the club. She recently took the Landmark Forum as well. Using Landmark style integrity and communication, she is asking the student leaders and the faculty representatives to commit to their promises and to hold their clubs to account. She has been a teacher for years and her passion resides in empowering youth through school channels and integrating those channels with the surrounding community. She loves seeing teachers create a brighter future through empowering the students.
My final game is around expanding a Reiki healing practice. My friend is a Team graduate and a Reiki Master Healer, which is the top ranking for the Reiki Healing method. He is developing a healing clinic. Since my dad is also creating a healing clinic, I combined the coaching calls for these two Game Leaders so they get to have conversations with each other. I created team around this conversation in hopes of having them support each other. Each week as a group we discussed what’s working and what’s not working with their game plans. Then one week I witnessed a breakthrough in their communication – they set up an additional conversation offline. I was really present to causing “others to others” communication.
What has been your experience in being of service to others?
It’s not tangible! Or, it is tangible but hard to articulate. There’s a level of power I have in life that I didn’t have before. It’s humbling and I’m careful to not abuse that power because I can create with my words. I consider everything I create for myself and am careful to say what I want and careful to not sarcastically say what I don’t want because then that gets created. I gained the “power to create” by being on Team and I have the opportunity to continually see my impact around the world. I didn’t focus on this at all in my first year on Team. Team 2 is a completely different program. I see how the space changes when I walk into it. I’m conscious of what I leave behind and am creating a legacy with the number of lives I touch.
How do you use distinctions from The Communications Program in your coaching?
Recreation is present on all of my coaching calls. It’s important for my Game Leaders to have what they’re up to reflected back to them, whether it’s a breakdown or a breakthrough. To have their breakthrough reflected back to them, they can get how big they truly are. And for breakdowns, they can see for themselves how to resolve the breakdown. Recreating them allows them to expand and move into the next level.
Coming from everything nothing is another distinction so I am present with my Game Leaders. I get behind whatever they are creating for themselves. This is their world and I’m in service to them. I can’t come in with an agenda because then I’m coaching them towards what I want and not what they want. I’m always getting back to nothing to clear the space to support them and their world (and their word!).
What breakdowns did you have and how did you overcome them?
When coaching my mom in a previous quarter earlier this year, she wanted to get research for the student healing clinic. She needed a statistically sound survey, which meant collecting a large population of data. She started interviewing clients but didn’t reach her goal in terms of number of people to interview. I helped her see that before the game, there was NO movement. So even though she is not as far ahead as she wanted the survey and data collection is in motion. We don’t stop at the breakdowns because breakdowns happen every day. Going forward we look at how we can make promises that we can fulfill on. We acknowledge and complete the breakdowns then make new promises based on concrete feasible opportunities.
I am so present to the lives transformed through Landmark’s Communications Program distinctions and look forward to my remaining quarters on the Team, Management, and Leadership Program. It is heart-warming to have this structure in place that mirrors back to us how incredibly miraculous we really are and opens the space for us to manage breakdowns.
Laetitia Mailhes created the Green Plate website as her game in the world in Landmark Education’s Team, Management, and Leadership Program. Mailhes’ purpose is to have consumers have a personal, well-informed relationship to food, including both its health and environmental impacts.
Out of her commitment to reduce arguments and divorce in families with children, psychotherapist Bryce Bronstein created the dating model, a game in the world she created out of taking part in New York’s Team, Management and Leadership Program. The project aims to keep relationships and dating distinct, and bring a new level of freedom and ease to dating for people.
Denny Schmidt has shared on the Facebook page of Landmark Education TMLP alumni of the work of The Well Being Foundation, of which Schmidt is Project Develoment Director, a small group dedicated to providing clean water for an isolated village, Esupetai, in the Rift Valley of south-central Kenya.
Their current project is to create a solar-powered well which will drasitcally improve the quality of life of thousands of Maasai villagers. Drought, population growth, and the clear-cutting of trees have all had a severe impact on the availability of clean drinking water.
The Well-Being Foundation works directly with village leaders and the community to make a real difference in people’s lives without being encumbered by red tape. The project is no ordinary well – a 500 ftoot, solar-powered well that produces water for thousands of people is quite expensive – visit the website above of the Well-Being Foundation to learn more.
He had no legs below his knees and asked me to carry his surfboard at the beach one day. I walked across the sand carrying our boards to the water. He crawled beside me on all fours. We had a great conversation.
As we talked, I was moved by the normality of it all. So often, those with disabilities are held up as â€œinspirationalâ€ and â€œspecial.â€ What Trevorâ€™s listening gave me was a profound feeling of normalcy; we were just two guys going surfing. We talked about the waves, the water, his job, mine. By the time we got to the surf I felt comfortable enough to ask him about his legs. â€œI was born without a tibia or fibula,â€ he said, referring to the bones in the leg. And with that, we hit the waves. That was the only time I met him, but our conversation made a lasting impression.
A few days later I was watching the news and saw a report about Iraq War vets coming home with disabilities. After war and injury and now with civilian life, it struck me that these men and women must be feeling anything but â€œnormal.â€ From that, Operation Amped was born.
Now in its second year, Operation Amped kicked off with a three day event (August 10-12) in Southern California where surfers share their love of the ocean with Iraq War vets who are now missing limbs as a result of their service. Twenty soldiers, sailors and Marines will be coming from Palo Alto, Texas and San Diego for a weekend-long surf camp sponsored by Billabong, Universal Pictures and Chipotle.
The possibilities of the event are freedom, transformation and fun. In Iraq, these vets were told they were fighting for our freedom.
As surfers, we can’t think of any greater expression of what they fought for than the freedom of surfing itself. If they are feeling somehow constrained by public opinion, their circumstances or the challenges of life, this event will give amputees the opportunity to enter a totally alien environment and see that anything is possible.
This year, Operation Amped is going nationalâ€¦ and international.
But a few weeks ago, our milestones werenâ€™t being met and we were struggling to find funding, food and leaders. I was distraught and worried. Then I got some advice from my coach, Gail.Â She told me my game didnâ€™t have to look a certain way. What I got was I was trying to do it â€œright,â€ the â€œnormalâ€ way. Once I gave that up, things started to happen.
One of our leaders, Dave, announced that Operation Wounded Warrior, a co-sponsor, is looking at our project as a trial run. If it goes well, OWW will take Amped to other cities. Itâ€™s also looking at taking vets to Costa Rica to surf!
On other fronts, my foodie friend Michael decided to round up the chefs he knows to donate meals. And my friend, David (you know, the one who has declined ALL my Landmark invitations), has raised $6000 to help us meet our goals.
Now Operation Amped is right on track, already providing freedom, transformation and fun even before the first vet rides the first wave. And no one has benefited more than me.
By sharing freedom, I got freedom myself.
— Tom Tapp, Team Los Angeles
My name is Lucy Heavens and I am 36 years old.
I have a company called Juicy Lucy Designs, and I design and
manufacture greetings cards, stationery and gift products which are
sold in the U.K and in other countries around the world.
I did the Landmark Forum in April 96, and have participated in
numerous Landmark programmes since then.
When I did the Landmark Forum I was an unfulfilled,
frustrated primary school teacher. My dream was to set up an Alternative
School, as I was disillusioned with State Education.
I just didn’t believe it was possible to do this as ‘who would take me
seriously? I’d probably have to be over 40, or have done a Ph.d …or
be a MAN!!!’…..When I did the Forum I realised that anything was possible….
and within 18 months of completing it I had set up The Lighthouse Learning Centre
in Brighton. It was the first learning centre of its kind in the U.K.
Also when I did the L.Forum I was in a rather shaky new relationship, the way it was
going, we would have almost definitely split up. After doing the course our relationship
was transformed. We have been together for 11 years, married for 7 and have a 2 and
a half year old son.
I also transformed my fear of flying; before the L.Forum I swore that I wouldn’t
fly again. In the course I got present to all that I was missing out on!!!
Before the course I didn’t mind as ‘I wasn’t an adventurous person…I’ll just be happy
taking the Eurostar to Paris’….After completing the Forum I thought…’I COULD be an
adventurous person!’…For our honeymoon we went around the world for a year long trip,
visited over 20 countries including Central and South America…and took 13 flights.
It was a completely magical year,and it was all made possible out of this work.
I have loads of other miracles I could share with you….
At the moment my Team Game in the World is ‘Fulfilling my childhood dream’.
When I was 6, my dream was to be an authoress and live on a farm.
In January I moved to Wales (a miracle created from the Causing the Miraculous Seminar!)
to a house called ‘The Old Farm’. It seemed fitting to take on fufilling this dream….( I have been
procrastinating for over 30 years and doing so in earnest for 7 years.) Out of this course
I have done something with my writing which I never normally do when I am writing….which is
ASK for HELP and allow myself to be contributed to!
I am just completing my first book and intend to have it printed in time for Christmas.
It really feels like a dream come true….I can’t explain the relief of finally doing something
that I have planned to do for all that time, but have been resisting!!!!
The hardest bit of it all was giving up the resistence…after that it was easy!!!!
I created the possibility of being ‘completely free to play’… pretty useful when you are writing
a fairy story!!!!
On most bridal registries you will find things like coffee makers, china, linens and other household goods.
If you were on the guest list of Linda and Richard Frary’s wedding last spring, you would have found goats, pigs and trees; all items that they were asking be purchased through Heifer International in order to benefit children and families in rural villages around the world.
Richard and Linda were both participating at Landmark Education when they met. They say that as they began to plan their wedding they wanted to make sure that it made a difference in the world. Instead of having people give customary gifts they requested that people make donations to Heifer International.
Heifer International is a global non-profit that provides farm animals and trees to families in developing countries so that they can create economic self-reliance. Each donation pays for at least one animal that goes to a family in need and to date the Frary wedding has resulted in 55 donations.
Both retired from previous careers, Linda and Richard are dedicated to helping others fulfill their dreams. Said Richard, “You get nothing if you don’t give something away.”
You can read more about Richard and Linda’s wedding in this story from the Sarasota Herald Tribune.
Couple proves it’s never too late to find true love
BY AIMEE CHOUINARD CORRESPONDENT
The Frarys are new homeowners in Beneva Pines. Married just a few weeks ago, Richard, 66, and Linda, 59, are a testament that finding love late in life is possible. In two weeks, they will embark on a three-week honeymoon toBora Bora. The Frarys dated for two years before they married. One year into the relationship, Richard Frary asked Linda to marry him.”I asked her, and she said, ‘No,'” Richard said with a laugh. “I wasn’t sure I ever wanted to get married again,” Linda explained. “And that was OK,” Richard said. “A couple months later, we were at the beach, looking out at the ocean, and I asked her again.”
They were married on Turtle Beach on Siesta Key, surrounded by family and friends, including Linda’s newly found birth family, whom Linda, who was adopted, never knew.Instead of registering for gifts at a department store, the Frarys registered with an organization called Heifer International, a nonprofit organization whose goal is to help end world hunger and poverty through self-reliance and sustainability. More than 60 guests visited the Web site beforehand to donate goats, pigs and trees to help children and families around the world become self-reliant. Richard Frary has been retired for 10 years from his Miami wholesale air-conditioning and heating products company. Linda Frary owned a picture-framing store in Connecticut and opened the same business here in Sarasota. She recently closed Sarasota Framing and Design to retire.â€ Weâ€™re getting younger, so we need more time to play,” Richard Frary joked. The Frarys both have children from previous marriages, Linda has a daughter and Richard has a son and a daughter.Richard Frary recently moved from Miami to Englewood, leaving his Englewood beach home to live with Linda in Sarasota.
Some of their best memories are of hours they spent engrossed in long conversations about their lives, their families and their dreams at the beach house.â€ It was during those intimate conversations that I realized Richard was such a special guy,” Linda said.
Intimate conversations have been a part of the Frarys’ relationship since they both participated in personal development work with a company called Landmark Education.â€ Landmark has had a lot to do with the incredible relationship we have created. When I did the Landmark Forum, I got over my past. Linda was a huge support during that time. That’s when I fell in love with her,” Richard said. The Frays are committed to making a difference in their community and the world. “We have great friends,” Linda said. “We meet people everywhere we go and just start talking.
“We love to meet people when we travel and are looking for ways we can contribute in other countries. We strive to be an example of a loving relationship in the world.”
The Frarys say they love Sarasota because of the arts, the entertainment and the creative spiritual community with so many organizations to be a part of. They plan to keep Sarasota as their home while traveling the world. Linda volunteers with Girls Inc., assisting with classes and programs. She says she loves being with the kids. She plans to also continue her already established involvement with the Greater Sarasota Chamber of Commerce.â€ We have an easygoing life,” Linda said. “We’re always running somewhere and always have something to do.”
In addition to traveling, the Frarys garden together and especially enjoy growing orchids. They kayak, snorkel and go boating together. Richard’s passion is windsurfing.“People ask, “How can I have what you and Linda have?” says Richard.
In unison, the Frarys say, “We just choose it!”
My name is Konnie Daniel. I was working as a Make-up artist in films and television before I started the Team Management and Leadership Program in December 2002.
Work was the only important thing in my life. I had hardly any contact with my family back in Germany. Having a family myself was not possible because the world is a scary place and you have to be independent and self contained so you can’t be hurt.
In the Program I came to see it is a very limited life I had allowed for myself. I created that, over the course of the year I could give up my internal story that ‘this is the only way to live my life’ and let other people in and allow them to contribute. Now I have got my family in Germany back and I see them on a regular basis. I have a Partner I love and we are having a baby in October.
I am still working as Make-up Artist, but now I have love and contribution from other people in my life. All this was not possible for me before the course.